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From: ganetauk
Date: Tue Dec 31, 2002 10:41pm
Subject: 3 metamuddle :o)
META MODEL:
The Meta Model comprises language patterns first identified by
Bandler and Grinder, the co-founders of NLP, based on modelling
Virginia Satir, an outstanding family therapist. Satir had a certain
way of gathering information, using language to clarify language in
order to reconnect the words people use with their experience. The
Meta Model recovers the lost meaning in the Milton language. It
reflects the other side of the language coin, or the other end of the
general-specific continuum. Now established as an important element
of NLP, the Meta Model can help clarify both our language and our
thinking.
You can use the Meta Model to gain a more accurate understanding of
other people's 'maps'. It probes the 'deep structure' of language,
by questioning the 'surface structure' (or the language we use in
ordinary communication).For each Milton Model language pattern, we
suggest a question or comment that will recover the 'deep' meaning.
We refer to these fairly standardised questions as Meta Model
responses. You will probably think of other responses as you become
familiar with the process. The more specifics you can elicit, the
more 'deep structure' meaning you will reveal.
Distortions:
Mind reading - 'You don't like me.' How do you know that I don't
like you?
Lost Performative - 'It's wrong to criticise.' How do you know it's
wrong? According to whom? Who says it's wrong?
Cause and effect - 'You make me angry.' How does what Im doing cause
you to choose to feel angry?
Complex equivalence - 'You're always shouting at me - you don't care
about me!' How does shouting at you mean I don't care? Have you ever
shouted at someone you care about?
Presuppositions - 'If my boss knew how overworked I was, he wouldn't
ask me.' How do you know he doesn't know? How do you know you're
overworked?
Generallisations:
Universal quantifiers - 'She never listens to me.' Never?, What
would happen if she did?
Modal operators of necessity - Words to watch
for: 'should', 'shouldn't', 'must', 'must not', 'have to', 'need
to', 'it's necessary': 'I have to finish this tonight.' What would
happen if you didn't?
Modal operators of possibility - Words to watch
for: 'can', 'can't', 'will', 'won't', 'may', 'may
not', 'possible', 'impossible': 'I will not pass this exam.' What
will prevent you passing it? What would happen ifyou did pass?
Nominalisations - 'Communication around here is non-existent.' Who
fails to communicate with whom? What do you want to communicate?
Unspecified verbs - 'He hurt me.' How, specifically, did he hurt you?
Simple deletions - 'I'm fed up.' With whom? About what?
Lack of referential index - 'They don't care.' Who, specifically,
doesn't care?
Comparative deletions - Words to watch
for: 'good', 'better', 'more', 'less', 'most', 'least', 'worse', 'wors
t':'He's the worst boyfriend.' Compared to whom?
When learning the Meta Model not everyone finds the dif-ferent labels
easy to remember. In fact, as with the Milton Model, you do not need
to remember these, provided you can recognise the patterns. More
importantly, learn to ask the right sort of questions to get the
precise meaning.When learning the Meta Model it will help if you:
Listen to what the person says
Repeat it to yourself
Ask yourself, 'What have they missed out?'
As you become more familiar with all the different responses or
challenges, you will realise that in many cases more than one could
apply. The skill includes knowing in what context to use the
patterns. These NLP language skills provide you with powerful
instruments for change. With practice, you can use them confidently
in just about any context. When not aware of the change process, or
your 'intervention', people will show little resistance. The Meta
Model reconnects language with experience. You can use it to:
Gather information
Clarify meaning Identify limitations Open up choices Form better
outcomes
Break or sometimes gain rapport
Create better relationships
Solve problems
Gain insights
